A Quick Update for Adopting Our Daughter

A Quick Update for Adopting Our Daughter

 

A Quick Update for Adopting Our DaughterThis post will be a quick update for adopting our daughter, as I need to get ready for work. We have finally been contacted by our adoption counselor!

We are in the process of filling out miles of paperwork and obtaining friend and family references.  This weekend we will answer 13 pages of questions about our childhoods, our adulthood, prior relationships (no major), our marriage and our views on discipline.

In just a little more time, we will begin meeting children!

Two side notes:

  • If people had to qualify like this before having a baby, there would be fewer children in the foster process, and fewer children in general.
  • If you want to see children waiting for adoption, please see this website.

 

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ABC, Adoption & Me

ABC, Adoption & Me

My husband and I are waiting to adopt a child from the foster system, so when I saw that Multicultural Children’s Book Day (MCBD) included books about adoption, I knew I had to pick one of them. And as I’m quite busy getting our house ready and working my day job, I wanted a picture book. I was thrilled when I received ABC Adoption & Me from Gayle H. Swift and Casey A. Swift.  It looked educational and entertaining.  But before I get to the book review I’d like to share more information about MCBD.

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Still Waiting for Our Daughter to Adopt

Still Waiting for Our Daughter to Adopt

 

Still Waiting for Our Daughter to AdoptSeveral readers wanted to me to keep in touch about our adoption process. I’m disappointed to report that we haven’t heard anything from the agency handling the adoption. Their phone message does not allow any messages – ODD! I sent a few emails this morning to various email addresses with hopes of learning something. We’ve been advised that there is a long wait period in the system by other case workers. Apparently, the organization is processing foster children into foster homes, but doesn’t have enough case workers to process the children and adoptive parents. We are quite disappointed at the moment. On the other hand, it is giving us time to get tasks completed around the house and some other issues taken care of before we have our daughter.

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Our Adoption of a Foster Child – Update

Our Adoption of a Foster Child – Update

When I first wrote that my husband and I plan to adopt a child from the foster system, many readers requested periodic updates on our progress. I’d like to report that we’ve found a child that we are getting to know. However, these things move slower than that. The AdoptFlorida website indicates it can take up to nine months to complete all of the steps, but we have plenty to do while we wait.

We completed our required PRIDE classes the first weekend of August, which was a total of 4 Saturdays. The class was based more on fostering children rather than adopting foster children.

The class was designed to help potential foster and adoptive parents understand some of the issues that we might encounter with the children. We’ve since been advised that there is a voluntary class for potential adoptive parents which we will attend.

adopt-treadmillIn the meantime, we are preparing our house. We currently have the requisite unused treadmill and exercise equipment in one room, which we are going to donate to the  Salvation Army.

adopt-bowflex-eliteOur office furniture and equipment is currently in one of our bedrooms. Once the gym equipment is gone, we plan to move the office furniture and computer equipment into that room. We’ve already purchased a matching desk for our future daughter that will fit into the new office. I’m still toying with the idea that we may need a bookcase.

We’ve moved all of our chemicals to a locking storage cabinet, as the state requires chemicals, medications, etc. be locked. None of us want curious children to be poisoned, and some of the older children could be into huffing.

adopt-linen-closetWe’ve organized the linen closet, as well as the closets in the two spare bedrooms. After being married 34 years, some of our bedding needed to be replaced, so the closet is partly empty awaiting the arrival of new mattress pads and sheets. I managed to get blisters sweeping out the garage this past Saturday. How does one collect so much junk, but still fit two cars in a garage?

We have donated a lot of clothes, bedding and a variety of other things we do not use. And we’ve thrown out a bunch of belongings that weren’t fit to donate.  We have a big walk in closet in the room that currently contains the gym equipment. I’m dreading that closet, as it might take the next two weekends to clean and organize. I hope not, but as I mentioned it is a big closet, and I’m certain there are things in it that we no longer need. However, finding them will require us to take everything out separate it between the keep, but organize pile, the donate pile and the throwaway pile. We need to create room in that closet to transfer the items we kept from the two spare bedroom closets.

adopt-spare-closetUltimately, we are making room for our new daughter, once we find her. We want her to feel like she actually lives in our house and has a space she can call her own. If our belongings are in her bedroom or closet, that won’t be the case. We still need to move the top rack down, as the height was installed such that my husband’s suit jackets would not bend and wrinkle, but our daughter will not be able to reach the top rack unless she is already basketball player height.

We will buy new bedroom furniture for her, but plan to let her choose her own bedding and pictures to decorate the room. And we want one spare bedroom in case we have guests. Or, you never know, we could end up with our new daughter’s sibling if they haven’t been separated yet. We don’t want to be the ones who rip siblings apart. That spare bedroom may actually end up being used by a second adopted child. Right now, we just have to wait to find out.

Our Adoption of a Foster Child - UpdateThroughout this process, I keep thinking about my children’s book series, The Mystic Princesses, and how one of the main characters could be considered a foster child. Perhaps next week I’ll compare and contrast Harmonie’s life to that of a foster child.

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My Last Breath

My Last Breath

by PJ LaRue

My hope is that
You will

Live long enough to forgive me.
Although I’m not asking you to condone abuse, I’d love to
See you one last time. And, maybe you will begin
To understand that I could not

Be the father you deserved.
Real men don’t abuse, but some can’t stop themselves when
Evil demons live within our souls.
At least let me exhale My Last Breath knowing that I am forgiven.
To my eternal sleep I will go, realizing that I can never atone for
Hurting you.

 

Note to readers: One of my favorite Facebook pages is Help for Adult Children of Alcoholic’s. You may find it helpful, as well.

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