Her Angel Wings – Battling Ovarian Cancer – Part 3
I have been putting off writing this last segment, because it is the hardest part to write. I have to tell you that my mom didn’t make it and the cancer took her from us. But she didn’t pass the night that her intestines split. She made it another three months, although her quality of life was limited. She couldn’t eat and had to be fed through tubes. She rotated between the hospital and various rehab facilities until her CA-125 blood tests reflected a rise in her cancer cells.
At that point, my mom made the toughest choice of her life. She stopped all treatment and requested to move to the Hospice facility in my home town where she was treated with the utmost dignity and was given plenty of medications to ensure she wasn’t in pain.
Mom was at Hospice eight days. We stayed there with her day and night leaving only to get food shower at relatives homes. My mom requested Charlotte Church‘s Voice of an Angel music. We listened to the same tracks over and over because they were so soothing. I’ll forever be grateful to Ms. Church for easing my Mom’s passing.
She lingered for several days until my husband, Terry, told her that he would look over all of her children. He told her that he’d see to it that we would all be okay. She was unconscious, but I believe she heard him.
The night my mom passed, was a blessing for her and turned out to be a night that I’ve cherished forever. She passed peacefully with my older brother, my younger brother and his wife, Terry and I all present. I truly believe she earned her angel wings as soon as she made it to the pearly gates. It was a tear-filled night, but we new we needed to let her go. She wasn’t living like we wanted her to be able to live. So to say that I have grown to support the current Death With Dignity movements is an understatement.
Through all of this I have mentioned friendship, and there was one particular friend who is still a part of my life today. She’d lost her mom the year before and knew exactly what I needed. She listened, handed me Kleenex or sometimes told me a funny joke so that I’d remember to laugh. To my friend, I know you may read this, I’ll always love you for being there for me.
Another reason I’ve been putting this off is that the Mother’s Day following my mom’s passing, Terry and I were given a quite timid Russian Blue that we named Sasha. Well, we just had to have Sasha euthanized two weeks ago because she had cancer. I spent the last few weeks of her little life dreading the final outcome, but knowing I needed to do it. And knowing she was a link to my Mom that would never come back.
Dealing with the emotion of letting my beloved little cat who helped me through each Mother’s Day passing away at the same time I’d started these posts was too much. So I apologize for the delay in finishing the posts. I know you’ll understand.
These weren’t upbeat posts, but I wanted to write them so that others who may be facing ovarian cancer or the loss of their beloved pets will know they are not alone. I also wanted to post some links for more information about ovarian cancer. The biggest point is that many people believe ovarian cancer to be a “silent” killer because it doesn’t have early warning symptoms. But that isn’t true. Many women suffer from severe gastrointestinal issues before the cancer has advanced to its killer state. So, if you take nothing else away from these posts, it is this: Pay attention to your body and know what is normal for you. If it isn’t normal get checked.
The second thing I’d like you to know is that an ovarian ultrasound could save your life. I get one every year because I didn’t want to undergo elective surgery to have them removed. I’m not afraid of a test, but I am afraid of going under going anesthesia when it isn’t absolutely necessary.
Please take a moment to check these links. They could save your life or the life of someone you love.
May peace and health be with you.