Why I Hate Valentine’s Day
You might wonder why I hate Valentine’s Day since I’ve been happily married over 33 years. Well, hate may be too strong of a word, but my reasoning is simple. Love and relationships have been exploited by the greeting card, floral and other industries turning it into yet another way to get you to part with your money.
According to the History Channel, Valentine’s Day started when Emperor Claudius II banned marriages for his soldiers because he thought love made them weak. However, a priest named Valentine continued to marry the couples. After being discovered, Valentine was condemned to death. Legend has it that on February 14th, the day of his execution, Saint Valentine slipped a card to his jailer’s daughter with whom he’d fallen in love, signed “from your Valentine”. But now, the day has grown to represent a day of excess where couples rush to buy jewelry, cards, flowers, chocolates, and dinners on the town, spending nearly $19 billion in 2015.
Yes, Terry and I go out to dinner, but not on Valentine’s Day. As one of the wait staff at a very nice restaurant once said, “It is amateur night.” Many couples fight crowded restaurants with limited menu options, overspend to impress their dates or spouses and then don’t celebrate their relationships until the next birthday or anniversary comes along. The day also has a way of bringing loneliness to people who are not in relationships.
Please don’t think that I project my thoughts onto your relationship because I don’t. You may well enjoy Valentine’s Day and celebrate your love throughout the year, and for that, I applaud you. Your Valentine will love you for it.
Here’s my thought for the day. If you don’t do this already, try telling your significant other that you love him or her with hugs and kisses every day for the rest of February, and then see how you feel at the end of the month. Also, leave a little love note or small gift on a day that it isn’t expected. The surprise will bring a smile to his or her face. I’ll bet you look forward to each new day.